It wasn’t until I woke up and realized the notions of the reality I was living in. No matter how much people dared not name that which people did not want to be named, it would still exist. Me blanking it out as a consolation would not blank out reality.
“Reality exists as an objective absolute—facts are facts, independent of man’s feelings, wishes, hopes or fears” – Ayn Rand
I left the whimsical arbitrary concepts I used to have, and began using reason and facts to figure out reality. I learned that in order to command nature, I had to act according to its rules and identity. The statement “Reality is Absolute” means that reality is not subject to wishes, whims, prayers, or miracles. If I wanted to change the world, I had to act according to reality. Nothing else would affect reality. If I evaded this fact, my actions would not have their desired effects. My failure to do so would be a metaphysical justice.
I threw out my mystical notions; I stopped wishing, and hoping for miracles. I made the irrefutable verdict, that if I wanted to achieve my happiness, I would have to gain every single inch of it myself, and dare not have the notion that any man is obligated to help me gain it.
“When I disagree with a rational man, I let reality be our final arbiter; if I am right, he will learn; if I am wrong, I will; one of us will win, but both will profit.” – John Galt
As I’ve mentioned in the past, a lot of these revelations began with my forays in online dating. For the life of me I couldn’t receive any dates with reasonably attractive girls from online. I kept hearing about how dudes where being messaged by girls online. The word was that online dating was so easy, it was considered one step above prostitution. But my experiences begged to differ, that is if I didn’t lower my standards and go after girls I considered to be war pigs.
As a scientist of life, I set out to test out reality and let it be the final judge. You’ve read about my hacking online dating post, so I won’t elaborate on that again. But something I haven’t mentioned till now, was that I also tested it out with someone else. For the sake of science, I ruthlessly used an old wing of mines photos; I stole his photos from Facebook, and put them onto a fake profile I created. The profile was an exact word-for-word copy of mine, so if they were going to be any differences in the results, they would be solely based off of looks and race. I shall refer to this wing as “The Stallion”.
Why use a wings photos and not just any random hot guy? I wanted to test it out with someone I knew personally and had been out there on the streets with me cold approaching. That way my personal observations about him and the reactions he was receiving from girls could be put to the test.
I did not pick this wing by random. He was a quasi-natural wing that came in talking a big game about how we were both going to become “PUA Gods” but after a few times of doing cold approach and getting his first lay, lost interest, telling me he knows he can get laid once or twice a year without trying, so he doesn’t have to worry about it.
He also had the stereotypical good features that women like. He was white, good looking, over 6 feet tall and blonde…the only thing he was missing were the “blue” eyes haha.
Before doing the test, as with any scientific experiment, I made a few hypotheses.
- Despite having the same exact profile, I had expected him to receive more messages than me.
I tested the hacking online dating post with both our profiles in New York City, since it had the largest population of single women on online dating sites. Although I had expected his profile to perform better than mine, I was still shocked by the results.
- “The Stallion” received a steady stream of messages from 1-3 girls each week, without the hack, just by leaving his profile up. I on the on other hand got 0 messages…this is the same exact profile word-for-word.
- He received on average 3 to 4 times more messages from using my hack than I did
- He also performed better with “Black women” than I did…this was the HUGE shocker
Having no previous success in receiving dates with “attractive” non-Black girls online, I had consciously decided to just focus on “attractive” Black girls, thinking I would do better with them since we’re the same race. Surprisingly, from my experience and tests, I do even worse with them. Yet “The Stallion” was scooping up the hot Black girls with ease. I saw the messages from them with my own eyes and could not pretend to blank them out.
After objectively going over the facts, I saw the futile battle I was facing. If I couldn’t even compete with this dude with women of my own race online, then there’s no way in hell I’m going to “consistently” compete with him when it comes to Asian, White or Latino girls. This test showed me that I would never win this game playing by these rules.
“Hell, there are no rules here– we’re trying to accomplish something.” – Thomas Edison
The rules were not in my favor; and as a rational man that refused to be at the bottom of the totem pole I did the only thing possible for me to do.
I would say that around ninety-nine percent of the men reading this aren’t getting as much sex as they want. Why not? Because these are the men that like to play by the rules. They treat the game of women as something where there are rules that every guy follows, and every guy is on an even playing ground.
And that is the biggest downfall of guys looking to have sex. They never stop and think that any and every obstacle will be thrown in their way (anything that can go wrong, will go wrong), and they never stop to think that other men really do have huge advantages over them. Or maybe they do, however, they are doing absolutely nothing to help themselves.
Instead of accepting the disadvantages that they have and accepting that obstacles will always be in their way, they hold on to their sense of chivalry, their sense of being the good guy, and in turn, they continue playing by the rules; rules that will always work against them. If such men realized that the rules were rigged against them, then maybe they would actually start to succeed with women.
How many of you have let a pretty boy steal your girl when you were bigger than him and could have pushed him out of the picture with pure physical intimidation? How many of you have lost a girl that wanted to have sex with you because you didn’t want to risk upsetting her friends? And how many of you were afraid to lie to a girl to her face to get what you wanted?
Most of you? You don’t have the balls to do any of the above. And that’s why you don’t get laid; you just can’t be the bad guy. You keep trying to play a game that you just can’t win. The rules aren’t fair, and the only way for you to win, is to throw them out of the window. Stop feeling guilty. If you want to win the game of women, you have to have your own self-interests in mind, because if you don’t, some other guy will, and he’ll be getting the women you wish you had.
The Guilt Free Man
In the process of becoming a rational man that lead his life by rational and objective tenets of reality, I knew I had to gain control over my emotions. I could not let the emotional whims or guilt persuade me to choose irrational decisions. I had to clearly define my “morality’.
“Happiness is not to be achieved at the command of emotional whims. Happiness is not the satisfaction of whatever irrational wishes you might blindly attempt to indulge. Happiness is a state of non-contradictory joy-a joy without penalty or guilt, a joy that does not clash with any of your values and does not work for your own destruction, not the joy of escaping from your mind, but of using your mind’s fullest power, not the joy of faking reality, but of achieving values that are real, not the joy of a drunkard, but of a producer. Happiness is possible only to a rational man, the man who desires nothing but rational goals, seeks nothing but rational values and finds his joy in nothing but rational actions.” – John Galt
I began following a new philosophy, one that did not draw it’s values and morality from society or religion.
I had the utmost reverence for Nietzsche’s definition of a Superman.
“A Superman is constantly changing and in a state of rebirth and growth. He determines what is good and what is evil, not allowing religion or society to determine these things for him…He uses a reason that is independent of the modern values of society or religion. He determines his own values…a Superman does not believe in an afterlife or the power of the soul over the body because he does not believe in religion and has no proof of an afterlife or a God. Therefore, he makes the most out of this life, not depending on a reward in Heaven or a punishment in Hell for what he has done on Earth.”
My definitions of Good and Evil where no longer determined by others, society or religion; they were determined by me, using the following notions.
Good: rational self-interest; that which helps me achieve my ultimate potential and survival is to be held as a virtue (Caveat – As long as it doesn’t break any major laws, it’s fair game)
Man has two fundamental parts to his nature, with the second one building on top of the previous. They are the following, in order of importance.
1 – Survival (Natural Selection)
2 – Reproduction (Sexual Selection)
Survival – Everything man does is a means to survival. It is the utmost important part of his being, so much so that it is ingrained in his body via instincts and has warning signals when it is on the verge of not surviving, i.e. pain and hunger.
Reproduction – The second part of mans nature is so intertwined with the first, survival, that the man that is MOST ABLE to survive, receives the most opportunities to reproduce. This fact is presented throughout our lives with the rich, the famous, the good looking, those most prosperous have an unfair domination of the sexual access to women.
“What shall it profit a male if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his immortal genes?” – Richard Dawkins
Those that are most able to reproduce, dominate future generations. Their genes are passed on, and those least able are thined out of existence. You could be the man most able to survival; you could literally be a superhero like “Superman” with genes that let you fly, jump over buildings and lift entire planets. But that is all for naught if you’re not able to reproduce! If you don’t pass those genes on, the future will never care for your existence.
A living entity that regards its means of survival as evil, does not survive. A lion that goes against it’s nature and refuses to hunt an antelope because it is “evil” would be wiped out of existence. It is a mockery to morality for a person to throw a piece of meat into a lion’s den and then chastise the lion for eating the piece of meat; that is the lion’s nature; it’s means of survival. In the same manner, it is a mockery for people to chastise a human for his nature.
What do I mean? I mean that it is immoral for people, society and religion to chastise a rich man for his love of money; he is merely using it as a means to improve his survival. In the same tone, it is immoral for people, society and religion to chastise a man for relentlessly wanting and working hard to improve his reproductive success and sexual access to women. Man’s nature is sexual, that is as pure a fact as you can get. If it weren’t true, man would not exist. All the asexual men that disagreed were weeded out by sexual selection, and continue to be weeded out.
I learned that the only thing that matters is my own personal values and morality; which are personal and private matters that are selfish in nature.
At the end of the day, I discovered the irrefutable verdict is this:
“Nature is amoral. It does not give a fuck about fairness or morality. Nature rewards the organism best able to survive; the organism playing the best strategy regardless of that strategy’s morality” – Superman
As cold as those words sounded the first time I thought about them, I could not deny the salient truth. Life is not like a Hollywood movie; most of the times the bad guy actually wins! There’s no such thing as “karma” ; that is a figment created by society and religion to make me feel good whenever I feel like a sucker! A trick to keep me in the matrix.
“All is fair in love and war” – John Lyly
“All war is deception” – Sun Tzu (The Art of War)
Assuming that anything goes in war, it leads one to realize that the most deceptive, the side that least abides by the rules, is the one that is most likely to win! And after their win, they are free to write the history portraying themselves as the “hero” and the other side as the “villain”.
Being the new rational man that I was, I saw that regardless of the outcome, they would be no magical karma fairy in the sky that would “even” things out. Life was a game, that either had no referee, or if it did, it didn’t care about fairness and just rewarded the last man standing, regardless of how he got into that position.
“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change. In the struggle for survival, the fittest win out at the expense of their rivals because they succeed in adapting themselves best to their environment.”
Primer in Evolution and Math
A fundamental aspect of life is that it is a game, an evolutionary game that is. Whether people want to admit it or not, the reality remains the same. Each human is pitted against other humans and organisms, with the reward being survival and reproduction, and the rewards for failure are being completely wiped out of the gene pool.
Survival Measurements (Natural Selection)
Quantitatively: Either you die or you live. Strictly measured by age. The older you are, the more adept you are at surviving.
Reproduction Measurements (Sexual Selection)
In the process of learning about Evolutionary Game Theory, I decided that I could no longer afford to neglect myself from consciously partaking in the game of life and receiving whatever random results I received. I wanted to have the upper hand and maximize my payoffs; a position that could only be achieved by holding rational self-interest as the highest virtue in my life.
Definition: “The branch of mathematics concerned with the analysis of strategies for dealing with competitive situations where the outcome of a participant’s choice of action depends critically on the actions of other participants. Game theory has been applied to contexts in war, business, and biology”
Definition: “A player’s strategy, in game theory, refers to one of the options he can choose in a setting where the outcome depends not only on his own actions but on the action of others. A player’s strategy will determine the action the player will take at any stage of the game.”
Definition: “Occurs when one strategy is better than another strategy for one player, no matter how that player’s opponents may play”
As its name suggests, this approach has been applied most widely in the area of evolutionary biology. Evolutionary biology is based on the idea that an organism’s genes largely determine its observable characteristics, and hence its fitness in a given environment. Organisms that are more fit will tend to produce more offspring, causing genes that provide greater fitness to increase their representation in the population. In this way, fitter genes tend to win over time, because they provide higher rates of reproduction.
The key insight of evolutionary game theory is that many behaviors involve the interaction of multiple organisms in a population, and the success of any one of these organisms depends on how its behavior interacts with that of others. So the fitness of an individual organism can’t be measured in isolation; rather it has to be evaluated in the context of the full population in which it lives.
An organism’s genetically-determined characteristics and behaviors are like its strategy in a game, its fitness is like its payoff, and this payoff depends on the strategies (characteristics) of the organisms with which it interacts.
Definition: “A strategy which, if adopted by a population of players, cannot be dominated by any alternative strategy that is not a dominant strategy. Once it is fixed in a population, natural selection alone is sufficient to prevent alternative (mutant) strategies from dominating it successfully.”
My previous quote about nature being amoral (reprinted below) is a more layman terms definition for Evolutionary Stable Strategies.